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‘Not the place for your son’: Virginia Beach mom searching for daycare for son with diabetes

VIRGINIA BEACH, Va. (WAVY) — Tiffany Hirko is searching for that one daycare to say the magic word — yes.

Her son Bentley won’t be four until November so he won’t be eligible for public pre-K until next school year. But the biggest hurdle is his diagnosis of Type 1 diabetes. According to the Centers for Disease Control, Bentley is one of about 300,000 young people in the US under the age of 20 with Type 1, the far less common kind of diabetes.


Hirko said she has contacted about 50 daycares in Virginia Beach without success.

“They say he’s a liability because he has Type 1 diabetes,” Hirko said. “They have staffing issues where they can’t commit to taking care of my kid. They can’t afford the expense that it takes for the classes for them to qualify to do insulin.”

Hirko said Bentley’s care is not all that complicated. He takes insulin through a pump concealed on his right thigh. “He is required insulin after each meal,” she said.

And anyone with a phone can monitor Bentley’s blood sugar through a monitor on his arm. The only times he needs a shot of glucagon, a medication for hypoglycemia, is when his blood sugar gets too low. Hirko says this is rare.

She is looking for that one piece that will solve her daycare puzzle.

“I don’t think [Bentley] should be treated any different than a kid his age, He shouldn’t be ripped out of the opportunity for learning and be around other kids just because of his disability.”

Tuesday afternoon, she contacted a local daycare who told her “this is not the place for your son,” even though it gets public money, which could amount to discrimination under the Americans with Disabilities Act.

According to the American Diabetes Association, “child care centers cannot refuse to accept your child because he or she has diabetes,” and said if people need help, to call 1-800-DIABETES (342-2383) or email askada@diabetes.org. It said they would ask a few questions about a parent’s issue and forward their request to the legal advocate program for review and possible assistance.

The American Diabetes Association offers other tips for parents or guardians seeking childcare.

She’s hoping her next phone call with a daycare doesn’t end like this.

“They just go, ‘I’m sorry, ma’am’,” she said, “and then they’re telling me, ‘good luck.'”

If you can help Hirko in a search for daycare for her son Bentley, contact her directly at tcarter91@icloud.com.